Caregiving is an act of love and support, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t hard work. Caregivers experience many hardships throughout their journey, including feelings of guilt and overall caregiver burnout.
For many adult children, stepping in as a loved one’s primary caregiver seems like the natural thing to do; however:
At Brickmont Assisted Living, our team understands the significance of providing quality senior care – but we also know it can be overwhelming and challenging. We’re sharing how you can talk to your family when you realize you can no longer serve as a primary caregiver for someone you love.
Realizing you can no longer provide senior care for a loved one might lead to moral crossroads, especially when you think about how your family and loved one will react to your decision.
Setting boundaries and admitting you can no longer provide care will save you from emotional and mental burnout and can lead to a positive change of shared caregiving responsibilities and open communication.
While you sit with your final decision, here are some important things to reflect on to help you gather your thoughts, feelings, and justifications to share with your family.
You might feel complicated emotions, from guilt, sadness, or even anger at your decision. Feeling guilty is common when a person realizes they can’t care for a loved one. For instance, it might even feel like you’re abandoning your loved one, or you fear your family will think of your decision as selfish.
However, this decision is not just about you - it’s about doing what’s best for your loved one, which might mean looking for additional care options.
Don’t think of your decision as a negative one; consider it an important observation in which you’ve discovered you are not equipped to maintain your caregiving responsibilities. This could include a variety of factors, such as:
No matter the reason, identifying your own capabilities and lack thereof is vital, and shows how much you care about your loved one.
When explaining any difficult decision to family members, it can create complex family dynamics and has the potential to bring up uncomfortable emotions. Past issues with siblings or other relatives might come back to the surface, or other relatives might resent your decision and worry they’ll have to step up into the role of caregiver.
It’s essential to begin with inclusive, open phrases to guide the conversation and clarify to your family that you aren’t forcing anyone into specific roles or trying to tell anyone what they need to do. Here are some examples:
Explain that you’ve reached your capacity and need extra help, and if you receive any negative feedback, remain calm. Ask your loved ones to consider the situation from your perspective; when people imagine themselves in the shoes of others, it can often provide a brand-new point of view.
Once you’ve successfully expressed your need to change how your loved one receives senior care, it’s time for your family to decide how to progress into the future.
Assisted living is one of the best options for older adults who need extra assistance with daily tasks. Brickmont Assisted Living provides outstanding care and services designed to meet each individual’s unique needs. Our communities offer a range of senior care, from minimal assistance to 24/7 support, allowing residents the freedom to maintain their independence while living a full, enriching life. We invite you to contact us today and discover how our Atlanta assisted living communities can help your family.